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情感導(dǎo)師 2022-11-05 7543

「來(lái)源: ｜小獅子的英語(yǔ)筆記 ID：RachelEnglish0818」

看了秋瓷炫的婚禮誓詞，沒(méi)人不想捶死渣男吧。帖子可以戳閱讀原文看。

從小就沒(méi)人疼沒(méi)人愛(ài)，好不容易結(jié)婚，大齡生孩子走一遭鬼門(mén)關(guān)，沒(méi)幾年男的就出軌了。呵呵，就那聲明自己信嗎？

回過(guò)頭來(lái)看這個(gè)評(píng)論：

承認(rèn)你在之前的情侶關(guān)系中不忠是一次賭博。如果你不走運(yùn)的話(huà)，“一日出軌，終身出軌” 這句短語(yǔ)則會(huì)長(zhǎng)期損害你的聲譽(yù)。

According to some scientific research, there could actually be some fact behind the idiom.

據(jù)一些科學(xué)研究，這個(gè)習(xí)語(yǔ)背后可能真的暗藏著某些事實(shí)。

A new study, published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, followed 484 participants in mixed gender romantic relationships. The researchers asked the participants to report their own "extra-dyadic sexual involvement" — having sexual relations with someone other than their partner — and also whether they had suspected their partners of infidelity in each romantic relationship they had been in.

近期，一項(xiàng)發(fā)表在《性行為檔案》期刊的研究跟蹤調(diào)查了484名參與者在男女婚戀關(guān)系中的情況。研究人員要求參與者上報(bào)他們的“劈腿”關(guān)系——與伴侶以外的人發(fā)生性關(guān)系——以及他們是否懷疑自己的伴侶在婚戀關(guān)系中不忠。

The results showed that people who had messed around in their first relationship were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship compared to those who had stayed faithful.

結(jié)果表明，與那些對(duì)伴侶忠誠(chéng)的人相比，那些在初戀就出軌的人在下一段感情中出軌的可能性要高出三倍。

Those who knew that their previous partners had cheated on them were twice as likely to have their next partners do the dirty on them too. Suspicion also appeared to be hard to shake, as people who suspected their first relationship partners of cheating were four times more likely to report suspicion in later relationships.

并且那些知道前任伴侶曾欺騙過(guò)自己的人，他們的下一任伴侶仍會(huì)出軌的可能性是其他人的兩倍。猜忌是難以被消除的，因?yàn)槟切岩勺约旱谝蝗伟閭H的人在接下來(lái)的感情中會(huì)有四倍的可能性懷疑伴侶仍會(huì)出軌。

One reason for this could be the fact that when we lie, our brain actually gets used to it. This was the finding of a study published in Nature Neuroscience, which showed that telling small lies desensitises our brains to the associated negative emotions, which may encourage us to tell bigger lies in the future.

其中一個(gè)原因可能就是，大腦能夠習(xí)慣于撒謊。這項(xiàng)研究發(fā)表在《自然神經(jīng)科學(xué)》雜志上，研究表明撒一些小謊會(huì)使我們的大腦對(duì)相關(guān)負(fù)面情緒產(chǎn)生麻木感，這可能會(huì)鼓勵(lì)我們?cè)谖磥?lái)撒下更大的謊言。

In other words, those little white lies we tell all the time might build up into bigger, more serious untruths.

換句話(huà)來(lái)說(shuō)，我們一直撒下的那些善意的小謊也可能會(huì)累積成更大更嚴(yán)重的謊言。

In the study, participants were divided into pairs. One was shown a glass jar full of coins, and the other a blurry picture of the same jar. The participant with the jar was instructed to help their partner guess how many coins it contained.

在研究中，參與者被分成兩兩一組。研究人員向其中一位參與者出示了一個(gè)裝滿(mǎn)硬幣的玻璃罐，向另一位出示了同一個(gè)罐子的模糊圖像。擁有罐子的參與者被告知要幫助他們的搭檔猜出里面裝了多少硬幣。

One group of participants were told they would get a cash prize if their partner overestimated the number of coins, leading them to lie and exaggerate. The researchers saw that the amygdala — the area of the brain responsible for emotions — responded when participants lied, but this response weakened when lies were repeatedly told.

其中一組參與者被告知，如果他們的搭檔高估了硬幣的數(shù)量，他們就會(huì)得到現(xiàn)金獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)，這導(dǎo)致他們會(huì)盡力撒謊和夸大事實(shí)。研究人員發(fā)現(xiàn)當(dāng)參與者說(shuō)謊的時(shí)候，大腦中負(fù)責(zé)處理情感的杏仁核會(huì)做出反應(yīng)，但當(dāng)參與者經(jīng)常說(shuō)謊時(shí)，杏仁核的反應(yīng)會(huì)減弱。

A similar thing could happen when somebody cheats on their partner. The first time they do it, they will probably feel terrible. However, if it happens again, they will feel slightly less bad, and so on. It could all be down to the biology of the brain, and what the amygdala is making you feel.

當(dāng)一些人欺騙他們的伴侶時(shí)，也會(huì)發(fā)生類(lèi)似的事情。當(dāng)他們第一次對(duì)伴侶撒謊時(shí)，他們會(huì)感到難受。然而，如若再次撒謊，他們就不會(huì)感覺(jué)那么糟等等。這一切都取決于大腦的生物學(xué)，以及杏仁核讓你感受到的東西。

In an interview with Elite Daily, researcher at Princeton Neuroscience and co-author of the study Neil Garrett said: "What our study and others suggest is a powerful factor that prevents us from cheating is our emotional reaction to it, how bad we feel essentially, and the process of adaptation reduces this reaction, thereby allowing us to cheat more."

在接受《精英日?qǐng)?bào)》采訪(fǎng)時(shí)，普林斯頓神經(jīng)科學(xué)系的研究員和研究合著者尼爾加勒特說(shuō)：“我們的研究和其他研究表明，阻止我們欺騙他人的一個(gè)重要因素就是我們對(duì)欺騙的情緒反應(yīng)，我們會(huì)感覺(jué)到有多糟糕，而適應(yīng)欺騙的這個(gè)過(guò)程減少了情緒反應(yīng)，從而使我們能夠再次撒謊?！?/p>

"With serial cheaters, it could be the case that they initially felt bad about cheating, but have cheated so much they've adapted to their ways and simply don't feel bad about cheating anymore."

“對(duì)于一些經(jīng)常撒謊的人，起初他們可能會(huì)覺(jué)得欺騙他人的感覺(jué)并不好受，但當(dāng)他們多次撒謊后，就已經(jīng)適應(yīng)了這種生活方式并且壓根不再對(duì)撒謊感到愧疚?！?/p>

He added: "Another possibility is that they never felt bad about cheating to begin with, so they didn't need adaptation to occur, they were comfortable with it from the get-go."

他補(bǔ)充道：“另一個(gè)可能性就是從一開(kāi)始他們就對(duì)欺騙他人沒(méi)有什么感覺(jué)，所以他們不需要適應(yīng)，他們從一開(kāi)始就感到十分自在?！?/p>

1. “出軌”的多樣表達(dá)

① cheater

Rachel說(shuō)“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”翻譯成“一日出軌，終身出軌”。

先看看 cheat (v.) 欺騙；劈腿 ▼

單詞原意是「作弊、欺騙」的意思，但用在情感關(guān)系間的話(huà)，就能衍生為「出軌、劈腿、背叛」。還有一個(gè)值得注意的地方，cheat 后面加不同的介詞，表達(dá)的意思會(huì)差十萬(wàn)八千里！

A cheat on B (A背叛B)

Mary found out that her husband has cheated on her for 20 years, and they are filing a divorce lawsuit now.

Mary 發(fā)現(xiàn)她老公在外面偷吃了20年，現(xiàn)在他們?cè)诖螂x婚官司。

A cheat with B (A和B有一腿)

The fact that David is cheating with Doris is an open secret.

David 和 Doris 有一腿是個(gè)公開(kāi)的秘密。

那名詞cheater就是出軌偷吃的人，呵，管不住下半身的人。

② mess around

The results showed that people who had messed around in their first relationship were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship compared to those who had stayed faithful.

mess around本意是浪費(fèi)時(shí)間；磨蹭；胡鬧，用在感情里也是不負(fù)責(zé)任的表現(xiàn)了。

③ do the dirty on sb

出軌表達(dá)怎么那么多，惡心！

Those who knew that their previous partners had cheated on them were twice as likely to have their next partners do the dirty on them too.

并且那些知道前任伴侶曾欺騙過(guò)自己的人，他們的下一任伴侶仍會(huì)出軌的可能性是其他人的兩倍。

do the dirty on sb 的英語(yǔ)解釋是“to behave unfairly towards someone, usually without their knowledge”。

舉個(gè)例子：

He can't forgive her for doing the dirty on him and having an affair with his best friend.

他無(wú)法原諒她瞞著自己跟他最要好的朋友有染。

2. “從一開(kāi)始”英語(yǔ)怎么說(shuō)？

He added: "Another possibility is that they never felt bad about cheating to begin with, so they didn't need adaptation to occur, they were comfortable with it from the get-go."

他補(bǔ)充道：“另一個(gè)可能性就是從一開(kāi)始他們就對(duì)欺騙他人沒(méi)有什么感覺(jué)，所以他們不需要適應(yīng)，他們從一開(kāi)始就感到十分自在。”

get-go替代beginning表示“開(kāi)始，開(kāi)端”：get going 是「出發(fā)啟程」的意思，

一般是用在日常口說(shuō)，不算正式寫(xiě)法：

I've gotta get going or I'll be late.

體育田徑場(chǎng)上，裁判會(huì)在起點(diǎn)喊："Get, set, go!"

也就是「就位，準(zhǔn)備，開(kāi)始！」

♂

久而久之，一首一尾的 get go

被抽出來(lái)變成了名詞，指「開(kāi)始」。

所以慣用語(yǔ) from the get go (也有很多人加上連字號(hào)，寫(xiě)成 from the get-go

意思跟 from the very beginning 一樣：

The latest research shows that babies can be taught the difference between night and day from the get-go.

最新研究表明從一開(kāi)始就可以教寶寶白天和晚上的不同。

我發(fā)現(xiàn)，最?lèi)?ài)立寵妻人設(shè)跑老婆人設(shè)的最容易出軌，前面的文章不就是，老婆這么好看還出軌，這些男的想上天？